Could be a number of reasons for it. Dropped you a PM with my email address go ahead and have your friend get in contact with me and we will see what we can do about getting it working.
With the Dominator and Dominator Platinum the extra height is there because the PCB has our DHX cooling. The DHX cooling helps removing heat from the IC through the PCB. The top of the PCB is plated and comes in contact directly with the fins and top of the heatspreaders.
It takes time to...
If you look at all the past transitions DDR1 -> DDR2, DDR2 -> DDR3 you will always see at the begining there is a lot of overlapping. DDR3 has pretty much already hit is limits after 7 years. DDR4 will take some time to mature just like DDR3 did.
The spec was originally 284 pins but then was...