I just wonder if i can get the F4-3600C16D-32GTZNC kit to work @ XMP after RMA that if i go with two sets of them for 64GB with all 4 DIMM slots filled if i can still run @ XMP
DDR4-3600MHz CL16-19-19-39 1.35V with 1T
or if with running 4 DIMMs will force me to loosen up to 2T and other worse timings?
You can set 1T and if you have issues set Geardown=enabled before trying 2T. In any case no guarantee XMP settings are still going to work when you have 4 dimms installed unless your QVL (grain of salt) suggested it should work. You might discover some adjustment is necessary for the reasons other posters have mentioned. But then again it just might work.
One of the more difficult aspects for OC'ing your system is that DRAM Calculator for Ryzen didn't have a profile for your ram IC's yet (no guidance available) - so you will need to do research finding others with similar setups to find out what works (or what doesn't work), or go though a lot of trial and error your-self. Your playing with silicon lottery not just with your ram but motherboard, cpu (IMC), and ram all trying to work together. The situation can change if you update BIOS/UEFI later. Just things to keep in mind depending on how you want to spend your time.
How important are these things to you and how do you value them for your build and usage of your PC: Performance, Capacity, Aesthetics, Budget, and Stability?
If you'd rather go for capacity (64GB) and aesthetics (4 dimms) then potentially you may need to sacrifice on some performance (freq or timings).
There are people who are ok with these trade-offs depending on their preferences, and quite frankly with your level of hardware, if it came down to it sacrificing some ram speed for capacity would not be a big deal as your gaming performance potential should already be really great anyway. In the worst case scenario if you had to drop down to DDR4-3200 and/or maybe CL18 it wouldn't be the end of the world. If you didn't pay attention to it I would hazard to guess it wouldn't change the outcome of your overall gaming experience much anyway unless you have some very specific needs.
If you're running stable with decent timings I don't think you need to be overly concerned with having the most optimal timings depending on how difficult it will be to get those optimal timings. For example. I'm currently testing a different ram kit at 64GB 20-20-20-40-66 from 32GB 18-17-17-36-58 and it really didn't make any perceivable difference (at least to me) for the games I'm playing currently.