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[OneMoar]

thx all kind of depressed just when you think you have this shit nailed it comes back with a vengeance

 

[R-T-B]

update badnews after a follow up petscan looks like they missed some and its in her lympnodes so now shes gotta have 6 weeks of chemo radiation and then more surgery
I won't ask for donations here but some best wishes might help
https://www.gofundme.com/2pgy26hk

My father recently survived a bout with neck cancer. I won't lie: It isn't easy. Take some time to cherish what you have man, because you never know.

Best wishes.

 

[jboydgolfer]

just when you think you have this shit nailed it comes back with a vengeance

Since 1993 I've been Forced into that EXACT reality, and it's a true bitch.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"

~a better person than Me~

 

[RealNeil]

I donated what I could and shared it on Facebook.
Please tell her that we're praying for her in Virginia.

 

[OneMoar]

I donated what I could and shared it on Facebook.
Please tell her that we're praying for her in Virginia.

too kind I recall explicitly not asking for donation tpu has given enough to my family and me lol

 

[RealNeil]

I wanted to do a little Moar, just because I could.
Please tell her everything in your heart. Say it all now.

 

[jboydgolfer]

Say it all now

I couldn't agree more with that statement.
The main thing that tears @ Me in my adult years, was when My mother was cancer ridden, I had JUST gone through that battle with My father, and As a early teen child, I lacked either the strength, or will, or maturity to act right, and out of sheer selfishness, one day She tried to stop by my girlfriends house to see me(which @ the time is where I lived) and I didn't answer the door....I had a long day, and whatever other excuses I had in my mind @ the time that made me feel justified in ignoring Her knock's. Anyway, that was the last time She ever came to My door, a day or Two later, She lost ALL control of Her body from the neck down due to a Large tumor pressing on Her spinal cord , and She never walked again, not to my door or anywhere else.

I suppose My point is, please take that time, dont live with the regrets I do.

My thought are with You, and your loved ones.

 

[tabascosauz]

Thoughts and prayers for you, your mum and your family. I hope all goes well and smoothly in treatment and recovery. Both you and your mum gotta stay strong man. Put your trust in the doctors but a strong and healthy spirit goes a long way in difficult times.

Posted a while ago about my grand-mama and her basically hopeless prognosis (late renal cancer). Booked a round trip ticket to see her halfway around the world and I dunno what's going on but she's holding on like nothing ever happened. We didn't ever tell her what the doc said; I mean, I don't think she'd understand anyway, she just knows there's something "wrong" with her health. She's an illiterate old woman who didn't have the financial means to eat every day let alone go to school. But she's one tough lady, so much so that the word "tough" and "resilient" don't encompass half of what she is; she's endured decades of unbelievable poverty, political and familial persecution, all while raising 4 kids. She's just gone on living her life like she would otherwise. When I saw her, the tears just started rolling down my face as I haven't seen her in 6 years - in that period of absence, I lost my grandfather and she lost her husband of 50-60odd years.

Anyways, I manned up and in the 5 hours I got to spend with her I told her everything I was supposed to tell her and tried to tell her everything I wanted to tell her but evidently there was some massive mess of an outrage going on in the family that got everyone angry as hell and thats all they talked about for 5 hours - and being by far the junior as I'm really just a kid in uni there wasn't any way I was going to change that - i left with half of me trying to comfort myself that she wouldn't have understood much anyways (not too stellar at my "mother tongue" and dialects and shit) and the other half accusing myself of not man-ing the fuck up and that she wouldn't be there the next time I'll have time to go back regardless of what takes her

so while my mum and dad are quite happy that I got to see my grandmother I've felt a little hollow inside since I got back.

Been a while since I came back to this thread. Sucks to hear that @OneMoar 's mum has to go through this, but I trust she's a strong soul and will fight this off. good to have this thread with the best of tpu.

 

[Mussels]

ah shit. thats bad news.


umm... almost got my new head unit in my car? hooray good news? :/
(yes its offtopic, we needed SOMETHING positive in this thread, too many sads in a row is bad juju)

 

[RealNeil]

Head Unit?



Your car gives you head?!
Nice car,..........

 

[Mussels]

Head Unit?



Your car gives you head?!
Nice car,..........

see, already cheered things up for a moment.

 

[neatfeatguy]

ah shit. thats bad news.


umm... almost got my new head unit in my car? hooray good news? :/
(yes its offtopic, we needed SOMETHING positive in this thread, too many sads in a row is bad juju)

I spent last Saturday at a fund raiser for Faith's Lodge (fund raiser was called Hope Rocks). Granted it's not something to benefit cancer people, but it's close in nature. Idea behind Faith's Lodge is for families that lose young children to help cope. In all, from donations and the live/silent auction, over $120K was raised for Faith's Lodge (yeah! good news!). This money is used to help absorb costs for families that couldn't normally afford to visit.

Close friend of mine, him and his wife lost their first baby at 6 days old, but they went on to try again and have a kid that's 6 years old. My younger brother and his wife also lost their first child at birth (they haven't tried again yet, not sure if they will or when they will due to the problems his wife faced, they may both be scared another pregnancy could end poorly for her....he won't say anything for certain about it) just over 2 years ago. These were the worst 2 funerals I have ever attended and wish to never do a child's funeral again.

My friend and his wife, they live close to Faith's Lodge, and they dedicate a lot of time and energy to it (one of them even works there now). They also created a non-profit organization in memory of their lost boy and it's called River's Rally. They've been doing that for the past 5 years. My wife and I go to River's Rally every year and we've attended Hope Rocks the past 2 years. We're not rich (damn near broke most of the time), but we help where we can.

My wife and I (along with our close friends that lost their baby) have been trying to convince my younger brother and his wife to check out Faith's Lodge to help them with the hard days (mother's day, father's day and specifically Grace's birthday), but they're kind of reluctant.

So, if any of you kind folks here on TPU have a family that's lost a baby/child or have a baby/child that's terminal, tell them about Faith's Lodge. It may be something that can greatly help these people cope.

As for Moar's mom - best of luck to you guys. Hopefully things turn out well.

 

[manofthem]

I spent last Saturday at a fund raiser for Faith's Lodge (fund raiser was called Hope Rocks). Granted it's not something to benefit cancer people, but it's close in nature. Idea behind Faith's Lodge is for families that lose young children to help cope. In all, from donations and the live/silent auction, over $120K was raised for Faith's Lodge (yeah! good news!). This money is used to help absorb costs for families that couldn't normally afford to visit.

Close friend of mine, him and his wife lost their first baby at 6 days old, but they went on to try again and have a kid that's 6 years old. My younger brother and his wife also lost their first child at birth (they haven't tried again yet, not sure if they will or when they will due to the problems his wife faced, they may both be scared another pregnancy could end poorly for her....he won't say anything for certain about it) just over 2 years ago. These were the worst 2 funerals I have ever attended and wish to never do a child's funeral again.

My friend and his wife, they live close to Faith's Lodge, and they dedicate a lot of time and energy to it (one of them even works there now). They also created a non-profit organization in memory of their lost boy and it's called River's Rally. They've been doing that for the past 5 years. My wife and I go to River's Rally every year and we've attended Hope Rocks the past 2 years. We're not rich (damn near broke most of the time), but we help where we can.

My wife and I (along with our close friends that lost their baby) have been trying to convince my younger brother and his wife to check out Faith's Lodge to help them with the hard days (mother's day, father's day and specifically Grace's birthday), but they're kind of reluctant.

So, if any of you kind folks here on TPU have a family that's lost a baby/child or have a baby/child that's terminal, tell them about Faith's Lodge. It may be something that can greatly help these people cope.

As for Moar's mom - best of luck to you guys. Hopefully things turn out well.

Wow, pretty impressive, thanks for sharing. Several years ago, my ex-sister-in-law lost her baby boy at about 4-5 weeks, after several heart surgeries and never leaving the hospital. It was terrible indeed!

Thankfully they rebounded and did try again after a few years, and now they have 2 healthy children.

I can't even imagine losing one of my kids, just thinking about it now gets me emotional and teary, and for the parents that have to go through that, no words really...



And speaking on the topic of cancer, another friend of ours was recently diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. He's already been through a lot and there's plenty more to come his way. We are giving him whatever support we can, like free smiles and haircuts what amazes me is his ability to stay positive and happy, still joking and light hearted...reminds me of Uncle Kreij!

Seems like we all know someone who is really struggling with very serious stuff. A shame!

 

[Caring1]

Just found out my mother has had a lump detected on her brain.
She's had several episodes Doctors thought were mini strokes, but now it's possible the tumour is causing problems.
This is after previous surgeries for cancer elsewhere on her body, and getting the all clear.

 

[stinger608]

Just found out my mother has had a lump detected on her brain.
She's had several episodes Doctors thought were mini strokes, but now it's possible the tumour is causing problems.
This is after previous surgeries for cancer elsewhere on her body, and getting the all clear.

Oh man, very sorry to hear this news bro!

It seems we are having a serious run of bad luck in these areas.

 

[qubit]

update badnews after a follow up petscan looks like they missed some and its in her lympnodes so now shes gotta have 6 weeks of chemo radiation and then more surgery
I won't ask for donations here but some best wishes might help
https://www.gofundme.com/2pgy26hk

Sorry to hear this. Let's hope they get the rest of it this time and she gets better sooner rather than later. Cancer is no laughing matter.

 

[neatfeatguy]

Not sure if any of you read this:

Microsoft will solve cancer within the next 10 years.

Just thought I'd share.

 

[stinger608]

Not sure if any of you read this:

Microsoft will solve cancer within the next 10 years.

Just thought I'd share.

Seen that this morning!!!

 

[OneMoar]

update they wanna do something called HIPEC where basically they flood your insides with a heated chemo-bath
still waiting on more test results and surgery dates

 

[OneMoar]

update2 no HIPEC oncology did a about face
now we are back to normal chemo/radiation CCCOMBO
which is gonna be expensive

 

[Ahhzz]

thanks for the update, OM. thinking of you, mate.

 

[Recon-UK]

last bump for awhile
I just found out my mom has colon cancer they caught it early and her chances are really good but this means ill be pulling double duty for awhile
wish me luck deen I am gonna need it

Sorry to hear the news and sorry for my late reply, i wish all the best for you and your entire family, i am also really hoping the medical side works for her, she deserves only the best.

 

[stinger608]

Any news yet @OneMoar ?

Hope things are looking up a little man!

 

[rtwjunkie]

My best wishes and prayers for your mom, you and your family, @OneMoar.

 

[OneMoar]

• shes currently on a break from the chemo due to immune system. issue tumor doesn't seem to be responding yet but only 4 rounds so far and fairly moderate doesage
• update 2: just heard back from the doc they are gonna resume chemo on different meds next week