I can't really understand what you guys found so difficult, it's a standar RPG, just use pause, i mean... Icewind Dale, Baldur's Gate, Temple of elemental evil, Neverwinter Nights, Arcanum, it's PAUSE AND THINK or DIE, i reaaaallly don't see any other way around it this is not the witcher nor oblivion where your mad skillzzzz for moving the character around has a true impact on the combat, if you ever played Final Fantasy XII on PS2 youll know about Gambits, this game (DA:O) uses a very similar *cough* Steal! *cough* system regarding the automatic control of NPCs during combats, if you learn to master tha set up of the auto party management you will be able to play with your character alone and watch the rest of the group act on theyre own BUT with absolute control on what they do. I really advice you to learn how to work the auto party management thingy, i assure you, your game experience will improve.
The game it's not that hard At all, you just need to stop, think and play in a more relaxed-enjoy the view-and the splortching blood kinda way.
I hope this helps, my experiences with the game so far are great, it's fun and challenging, the perfect amount of both