Just remember, whether soldering or desoldering, make sure your iron is fully preheated and the tip tinned and clean. A small piece of wet sponge works great to keep the tip clean. Then be quick to avoid heating up surrounding materials, including the device itself. In fact, if the leads near the component are exposed, use stats or a heatsink/alligator clip. A little flux when soldering will help with speed and proper flow too.
For newbies and pros alike, soldering is a skill. And like all skills, require practice and regular honing to keep sharp. For the solder to flow and create a proper joint, both sides of the connection need to be hot or it won't flow properly. It takes practice and experience (skill) to learn how to apply just enough heat (but not too much) for the solder to flow over the joint completely, without damaging the board or the component, or both.
Last, find an old circuit board you can sacrifice to practice your technique on. Even an old pro needs to brush up to keep that skill sharp.