Well, I'm not going to argue with any of that. I can't say it doesn't happen. I know that they can be seriously dangerous, if not at least very painful. There's no arguing with someone's experience. I'm sorry that happened to your coworker. I can't imagine.
I can tell you're at least a little angry with me, so I appreciate you being respectful. I hope you will see that I'm not trying to stir up any bad feelings here. I think it's a legitimate conversation to have. I'd rather speak and at least confirm that I am wrong than stay quiet and go on thinking I'm right.
Spiders have been a subject of fascination for me for a long time now. And in all of my reading I've never heard of brown recluses being aggressive towards people. Again, not saying they can't be. I believe you. If I saw one you can bet I'd be very focused on killing it. What I was getting at is that it's a very, very small risk compared to the amount of cohabitation and interaction.
In the the time when the recluse thing became sort of a cultural phenomenon, the amount of bites were found to be grossly over reported, sometimes in areas where they've never been known to live and haven't really been found since. The spiders actually are not there. 90% less ever found than bites reported in a year. Most spiders identified as recluse spiders are a completely different spider. Most people, upon seeing a big, brown, fast spider, assume "brown recluse." They then go and tell everyone they know about how they saw one of those spiders that make your flesh rot off, like on TV. And then a lot of other conditions were also misdiagnosed/misrepresented as bites when they never were. I'm sure many people added to the mystique by telling people they were bitten when really that big open sore was something else. Legitimate cases of bites are occasionally very bad, with people suffering long-term side effects and even some deaths from complications to the wound, but not nearly as many as people make it out to be. Hard to come by.
It was just one of those things that through human nature was made to be this great scourge when really it was never anything like that. And now we're stuck with that conception. To actually have anything like the common conception happen is like a crazy, crazy unprecedented freak accident.
Black widow venom is very potent, and its action is nasty - I would absolutely suggest if you even suspect you have been bitten that you head to the ER immediately. Take it seriously. Your life
is potentially at risk by not doing so.
It's just that the amount of that admittedly potent venom simply is not likely to be enough to drop a human. It's usually VERY painful for a long time, but that's generally about it, even before the antivenom very few people died. We're talking .2%-5%. Pets and children are at a higher risk, though even children tend to live with treatment. A rattlesnake bite, though less potent per gram is much more deadly to anyone. They'll have a much easier time delivering enough to kill than the tiny spider could ever hope to. They're much more aggressive and capable. Unlike poisons, venom has to get to the right places. Most spiders physically are not packing the equipment to deliver a seriously harmful bite to humans. They can only get through the top layer of skin most of the time, which typically doesn't get nearly a lethal level into your bloodstream fast enough. There are exceptions, always. You can always be unlucky. But still... ...the amount of black widow deaths per year can be counted on your hands.
I never meant to say that it can't or doesn't happen. It's more just that I notice people get panicky about spiders when really a little common sense and caution is enough. Of all of the terrible things that could happen to you on any given day, suffering a serious, potentially life-threatening spider bite is among the least likely. Flu variants will kill many many more people this year before even a handful have a necrotic recluse bite, let alone actually die from a widow bite. Several might be a different story...
Don't get me wrong... ...respect and caution is very much warranted. It's the fear and elevation to almost mythological status that I don't get. There's some exaggeration and misconception of facts about them that I'd say are good in terms of awareness but bad in terms of being bitten and freaking out thinking you're going to die or your arm is gonna fall off.
Like I said wouldn't go picking any up, nor would I advise anyone else to! I just think it's kind of silly how people freak out when they see spiders. I absolutely don't see it as anything to worry or get upset about. It's just kinda, well, a spider lol. They're around, no matter where you go. No need for panic and trauma. Catch/move it or kill it and get on with your life